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Brian Austin Green was 29 when his eldest son, Cassius, was born. His youngest, Zayn, arrived in June, just weeks before the actor turned 49.
Speaking to Yahoo Life’s So Mini Ways, the former Beverly Hills, 90210 The star and father of five says fatherhood has different effects as an older dad.
“At 49, I don’t have the same natural ability, obviously, to be as hands-on as I was when I was younger,” Green says, crediting Zane’s “amazing mother,” dancer Sharna Burgess dancing with the Stars reputation. “Sharna is such a partner in all of this which has been so enjoyable.”
Green also considers himself lucky that there is no sibling drama in his modern family. In addition to nearly 3-month-old Zane and 20-year-old Cassius, whose mother is actress Vanessa Marcil, he shares Noah, 9, Bodhi, 8, and Journey, 6, with ex-wife Megan Fox.
“They’re all so obsessed with Zane and so in love with him,” Green says. “And there was absolutely no problem with that, there was no friction in the situation. Things that could naturally have happened with having a baby with someone new – the younger kids who disagree with it because there’s a new one that they’re not completely related to with the blood on both sides — it could have been so hard and it just wasn’t. From day one, they’ve absolutely embraced Sharna and now they’re embracing Zane. It’s been amazing. It’s really been a blessing.”
When it comes to his parenting style, the TV star says that while he’s not afraid to be a disciplinarian, he’s a firm believer in giving his kids the freedom to be themselves.
“I don’t own these kids,” he says. “I don’t want to force my passions or the things that make me on them. I love that they’re individuals and I really enjoy helping them find their individuality, their passions and the things that make them. I feel like my job as a parent is to make sure, morally, that they are good people when they grow up.”
His parenting philosophy is this: “Just love your kids,” Green says. “Just accept them for who they are and be loving, kind and supportive in everything they do. Don’t let your own experiences in your life stop them from experiencing and living their lives. Be okay with the step a little back and not micromanaging the situation.”
He points to Cassio’s eldest son as proof that he did something right.
“I feel so blessed and I’m so excited to see him go around the world himself. Hearing from people like, ‘Oh, I met him, and he’s just an amazing person’ — I feel like Okay, that’s one down“, laughs. “I’ve done well with one so far, four more to go. If it is of any kind [testament] for what it is that I do and have done, then so far so good. It seems to be working.”
Fatherhood was also a wake-up call for Green to prioritize his health so he could be there for his children. Since his 30s, the actor has suffered from ulcerative colitis, an inflammatory bowel disease that can cause inflammation and ulcers in the digestive tract and is linked to an increased risk of prostate cancer, though he admits he hasn’t always been proactive about getting annual exams. projections. He’s now partnering with the Depend on Stand Strong For Men’s Health campaign, in which a portion of the proceeds from sales will go to the Prostate Cancer Foundation between now and the end of November.
“I hadn’t taken my health as seriously as I do annual screenings and all that,” admits Green, who recently completed a prostate-specific antigen (PSA) test as part of the campaign. “And there was a little bit of a stigma for me when I had a prostate exam because it just felt very invasive at the time. But that was before this PSA test that’s possible now. It’s a simple blood draw.”
Prostate cancer is diagnosed in one in eight men in the United States, and it’s something Green says “could affect myself, my family and my children — and I personally want to be here as much as I can for them.”
Although Green says his ulcerative colitis only flares up every two or three years, a particularly debilitating episode came midway through Burgess’ pregnancy earlier this year. The former teenage heartthrob was bedridden for more than six weeks and lost 20kg. This, combined with previous neurological issues Green has dealt with, has reinforced the importance of staying healthy.
“I have five children,” she adds. “I’m 49 years old. At some point I have to stop feeling like I’m a superhero and that nothing is going to affect me.”
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